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A New You, How to Rebuild your Life after a Divorce or Relationship Breakup

A New You, How to Rebuild your Life after a Divorce or Relationship Breakup

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It is impossible to escape unscathed from a life-changing event, such as a divorce or a breakup. That very reason is why you can convert this curse into a blessing. Instead of letting it represent upheaval, think of it as an opportunity for change and rebuilding.

The following ways will assist you in getting the process started:

Acceptance

It might seem like the most natural thing to keep going over the relationship that is no more. However, rehashing what you did wrong or where you think you failed will not achieve anything. Why waste your time and energy on such an unproductive act then? Direct the energy from feeling guilty towards positive thoughts.

 

To usher positivity into your life, you will need to believe in one simple fact: at that time, you did the best you could have done. Making a different choice, based on where you stand at this moment may seem easy. Nevertheless, it would have been impossible to make that same choice in the past. What’s done does not need rehashing; it needs to be accepted.

Express

This way of expression has been used to death. Every blog and every self-help rag will tell you to express yourself through writing. The reason behind journaling mentioned everywhere is that it is quite effective! Putting your pain into words can make things hurt a little less. Writing about your emotional struggles will help you see what areas of your life require healing. Once you can track the process, you will also be able to keep things in perspective and focus on what needs healing.

Repair

One of the things that is in need of repair after you come out of a broken relationship is your ability to trust. Entering in a relationship meant trusting that person and in the same way, broken trust can result in the loss of that relationship. While you may be tempted not to trust someone else, you should not do so. Instead, be smarter about who you trust and make decisions based on your instincts, as well as, the evidence in front of you. Trusting others will bring you one step closer to a new you!

Risk It

Lastly, to redefine yourself, you can start by taking some risks. It will be hard at first since risking commitment was what left you with a broken relationship. Nevertheless, in order to start living life to its fullest, you need to jump right in! You can begin by taking small, healthy risks, such as taking up a hobby that you had abandoned for some time. When that pays off, you can build upon it by joining a group of people who enjoy the same hobby.Take it slow and be ready for things not working out right from the start. It is okay to fail but it is not healing not to make a second attempt. If you think that hobby isn’t the right fit for you, try something else.

 

We hope these tips help you at what is a crucial time in your life. Keep trying and you will soon have left the break up in the dust!

 

For more strategies on coping with a breakup or moving on from your divorce, Contact Transition Planning UK on 07456088439 or register today for our workshop.

 

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AUTHOR - Simon K Aidoo

Simon K Aidoo former Roman Catholic priest with several years of experience in guiding people through different complex life transitions. Simon is also know as UK's best transition planning consultants, has great experience in retirement transition planning, divorce transition planning, life transitions coaching, coping with relationship breakup, organisational transition consultancy and more.

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