Why must you get ready emotionally and Psychologically before you Retire?
To emphasize this point, I would like to share with you the retirement experience of a man whose literary work has had a great impact on me. This man is called William Bridges. He was born in 1933 in Boston, MA, USA and he died in 2013. May he rest in peace!
In 1974, when he was 40 years of age, William Bridges retired from his career as a college teacher of American literature and moved his family to the country.
He and his wife wanted to join one of those “intentional communities that were springing up in California.
Like many people, he was excited by the prospect of a new life, and put a lot of planning into getting ready for the changes it entailed.
For example, he had his financial portfolio and decided on where he wanted to live after his retirement.
As it turned out “it was exciting but I was a mess”.
Within a month of making the move, he was being treated for a pinched nerve in his neck and high blood-pressure;
he was also arguing all the time with his wife, and he was feeling much more discouraged about the future than he had imagined he would be.
He worried that he had made a mistake coming out to the country, he also worried that he would have to go back and beg to be rehired at the college where he had worked before he moved.
What’s going on you may ask? Unknown to him was that there is an emotional and psychological component to retirement, so he had not built his emotional and psychological portfolio.
At the time, he did not understand the process of transition nor did he know that endings can trigger real mourning for what has been left behind,
So, all he could imagine was that the change had been a mistake, making him miserable. He felt that his life was over.
He was depressed, even though he had wanted to leave his teaching career.
He missed the regularity of his old schedule and familiar give-and take of the classroom.
He also missed talking with his colleagues about classes and gossiping about students.
He also missed the way his work had given him such a clear sense of who he was. He was lost and did not know who he was any more.
This loss of identity came into sharp focus when one day his youngest daughter came home from the second grade to say that her teacher had asked all students to find out what profession their parents held.
The best he could give her was a string of participles: doing this or doing that. But the girl was looking for a noun- teacher, doctor etc.
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