ABOUT TRANSITION PLANNING UK LTD.
Transition Planning UK Ltd (TPUK) was founded in 2014 by Simon Aidoo- a coach and consultant who is also a former Roman Catholic priest with several years of experience in guiding people through different complex life-changing events.
ABOUT THE FOUNDER:
Throughout my life I have experienced a series of major transitions as most people do, but one that really changed the direction of my life happened when I was 16 years old. My grandfather was kidnapped and murdered on his way to an evening Church service. When I saw my granddad’s body lying on the roadside, I became numbed, speechless, and time stopped for me. Following this tragic event, my life was turned upside down. I experienced the most brutal emotional and psychological turmoil you can imagine. Thinking and believing that I was ill, I sought medical help just as any sensible person would do. Doctors foisted different medications and treatments on me but I had no improvement. I also suffered from a disease called “go-away-closer”. There were times I was starving for contact but I would avoid it like poison when it was offered. I longed for human connections but sabotaged any chance for it to happen. I erected barriers to keep others from getting too near, too intimate, too involved- yet I was unhappy and restless in isolation. I felt lonely in the midst of a crowd and experienced a bitter cold within me even though I would be boiling hot and sweating. I felt like nobody cared or understood my suffering and pain.
I became frustrated and confused for a number of reasons:
- I felt as if I was fighting an enemy I could not see nor know.
- I simply couldn’t find the words to describe whatever it was that was taking place in his life.
- I was unable to find words that could help me make sense of what I was going through to myself or to others.
- I was bleeding to death but had no physical injuries.
- I lost the zest for life and felt my world was falling apart.
- My world fell apart but no one could see it.
- I suffered emotional melt down and had suicidal thoughts and contemplated taking my own life because at certain moments I felt that death was better than a miserable life.
I managed to pull through this painful and confusing moment with the help of my Christian faith and knowledge of the Bible. One particular verse that became my anchor is “ and we know that all things work together for good for those who love God” (Romans 8:28)
While going through this emotional and psychological pain, he made a promise to God that if he saved his life and enabled him to overcome the emotional and psychological turmoil, he would research into the underlying causes of this pain and frustration, develop strategies to help others in similar situation to cope with their pain and confusion.
My research led me to the work of a man called William Bridges who in the 1970s had experienced similar emotional turmoil after retiring from his job as Collage teacher of American literature. His work gave me the break through I needed because it gave me the name of the enemy I had been fighting for over 25 years and following the strategies outlined in his work, I eventually overcame my emotional turmoil and the mental issues vanished. This enemy that has caused many people to take their own lives is called “transition”- the shadow of change. Using my experience, knowledge and training, I developed a workshop; “How to manage life Transitions” to teach others the strategies for navigating the tortuous terrain of transition.
If you’ve been touched or affected by my story, there is hope for you. Get in touch and do not stay silent for if you do it may kill you.